The Trap of an Affair

If you are married, this is a must-read article...

http://www.chadbird.com/blog/2017/7/6/the-affair?rq=the%20Affair

From the article:

"What we term “falling in love” is stumbling into a state of emotional bliss with another person. True love, on the other hand, is the willful choice to act selflessly for another person, to commit yourself to that person, regardless of the emotional ups and downs. A man and woman who commit adultery together cannot love each other. It’s impossible. That’s like saying two people who are stabbing each other are giving life to each other. If they loved each other, they wouldn’t be harming each other through adultery, harming their spouses and children, and living a lie. Adultery begins in selfishness, continues in selfishness, and breeds yet more selfishness. It is not, and cannot be, a relationship of love. They may mouth the words, “I love you,” but what they really mean is, “You are meeting my selfish emotional needs and I am meeting yours. We are using each other.”

You Become What You Love

"You become what you love." St. Augustine via Scott Sauls. Or as Calvin reformed Augustine...we take on the characteristics of whatever we love and worship.